Hulk Hogan versus James Bond
I am often asked by a potential client whether I am a Shark or Tiger, or that they heard I am a Shark and a Tiger and that is why they want to hire me. I immediately respond that I am neither, as I believe that Compassion is the best way to accomplish your goals, not by hiring a Shark or a Tiger (aka A-hole.)
He who angers you will control you. Hence, your marital wrath and grievences will continue to bind you with your spouse and not grant you the emotional divorce that is required to move on in your life. Compassion is simply a rational and wise and thoughtful manner of identifying your goals and taking the time to develop a strategy to accomplish your goals, and then work toward them, diligently.
A Tiger or Shark is a symbol of an angry, predatory animal, ie; bully. Seek and destroy is an incredibly stupid approach to accomplishing your goals and this breed of attorney looks like an inexperienced idiot when using these methods in Court. You could say it is the difference between being represented by Hulk Hogan or James Bond. I prefer Bond.
Find the Compassionate attorney that is glad to argue your case at trial and work to accomplish your goals, as most bullies (the Hulk Hogans) are too afraid or too lazy to do so. The loud, argumentative, Shark-Tiger attorney you seek to hire is, in reality, a swaggering phony and an incompetent diplomat who rises out of fear, and falls down the minute somebody stands up to them.
Think about it. Covert operation or Overt operation. I vote for the Covert operator.
Aim to accomplish your objectives, not to look like an A-hole. This person will quietly reveal true colors of your spouse and stand as a reminder of why you are divorcing him/her.